The simple act of writing a letter of condolences is the purest act of humanity we can share. Our loneliness in grief is real yet the simple act of listening is so important. “Grief is so uncomfortable especially when it is someone else’s” From a brilliant TED talk by @noraborealis
Read moreGrief is the Thing with Feathers: Just See It
Grief is the Thing with Feathers gives us all a chance to step back, sit down, and think about our grief in real terms. Harsh terms. Powerful terms. We can find our life and world in this play.
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Escher Eye
Funerals are becoming events corridnated by a celebration-of-life planner. "Running Home" A Memoir by Katie Arnold. Cumulative grief can be characterized by the simple fact that as we age those around us, friends, family, and loved ones are dying.
Read moreNeurobiology of Memories and Grief
There are neurobiological reasons why our memories and our grief are inexorably connected. It has nothing to do with us being crazy, lost, or incapable of closure
Read moreWhy I'm Making A Grief Tapestry
I am creating a tapestry of memories and emotions to carry with me like the Bedouin moving from one safe place to another safe place knowing they have all that they need to thrive.
Read moreLove Is Watching Someone Die* Part II
Caregiving is helping a loved one live well. The price we pay is shuttling between our life and their death. We exchange life’s water with the wilting of the loved one, nourishing them over and over while our life erodes. Yet our spirit sings the joy of giving hope and succor.
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M.C. Escher
Grief Dreams have a place in our lives and it’s not all bad. Love and you’ll grieve and love again. Helping each other in our caregiver role. Workplace education to improve grief support.
Read moreWedding and Anniversary Memories
Our Wedding Cake Topper
My upcoming anniversary drives memories of our wedding.
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M. C. Escher
Sometimes even gaming we can find meaning in our grief. Grief is not valueless nor vapid it offers us much. Music even happy music makes us grieve.
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M. C. Escher
You can phone your grief in. Art and grief creates real healing and hope. Polite dinner conversations should include death and dying.
Read moreGrieving 101 & More
Have you ever filed an article in a read later folder and a week or two later open it and smack yourself because you hadn't read it sooner? I did and here is this gem on grief, grieving, and more. An important piece on grief and loss.
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M. C. Escher
Yiyun Li’s stunning story about death and grief, Seneca the Greek philosopher in 41 examines grief, and arranging funerals and grief. I add my experience with that exercise.
Read moreEmployers, Employees, and Grieving
Somewhere in Italy
Employees and employers are the single most important community to help with grief, grief support, and mourning.
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M.C. Escher
Some links on How Should You Grieve, Closure Is Indifference, and Death and Grief in the Digital Age
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M.C. Escher
End-of-Life A film examines how death is what we all face yet most run in fear. “No Me Dejas” a brilliant Science Fiction short story about transferring memories. It’s what we do with loss and grief. A short paper on Death, Grief, and Family Dynamics.
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M.C. Escher
How to have a better death, Rums (just because), some grief lasts a lifetime, and how to learn from great loss.
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What I found interesting this week. East vs. West concept of last words, what makes life meaningful at the end-of-life, and judging others grief.
Read moreAllowing Grief to Sculpt Your Future Self
I can see myself reflected in the grief of my loss and that reflection is not static. It is dynamic and moves forward the in ripples and eddies of a stream even as I stand in place.
Read moreThe Idiosyncratic Nature of Grief and The Benefits of Solitude
I guess my first goal is to find the peace in the solitude of writing, the book, blog posts, and not jump up to do something else. To learn to sit and listen quietly to my inner voice. To not look at what’s next or what do I do to fill the time with chores and acts.
Read moreShhh Can You Hear Your Grief Playlist
The iPod Original was a 2001 Christmas gift from Donna
Grief is a playlist playing in the background. It is the sound track of your life after the loss of a loved one. Some turn it off and find a new list. Others listen to their and dance to it or sing or cry or let it just play. It is your playlist and your choice.
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