Discovering My Grief Voice

March 18, 2021 Mark

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It was joining HYWC that some profound changes/discoveries began.

I discovered I was not alone in my grief. Though writing and reading about the grief I knew I learned we all grieve and grieve differently. We are all in pain. We all want to share our story. Being among these HYWC wids I discovered. A brilliance of our shared grief. The Venn of our pain and hurt. How we all can learn, grow, and support others grieving.

A Love Song for Nora & Moe

December 21, 2020 Mark

The fiercest grief warriors you’ll meet Moe & Nora

Nora and Moe created a space a place where grief and loss and pain can thrive. Grief can have a life beyond the crushing sense of loss where it pulls relentless at you and breaks your every moment. Nora and Moe have taken grief out of the darkness and allowed it to be shared in a way that I and others have learned to live with it.

The Wound Called Grief is Love: Anniversary Edition

May 12, 2020 Mark

Anniversary grief is subtle when it starts. You know the date and in your mind there is a smile remembering what happened that day and all that make the 28 years that followed. Then one morning you wake expecting to do the usual calling Donna just because it's what you do to greet the day. Today it's a plaintive cry imploring the gods to ease the pain settled in your bones.

Domesticating The Feral Nature of Grief

January 20, 2020 Mark

Failure is a bit harsh when considering grief and sorrow but we all know how when we fail, we feel lost and hurt. That is what our grief feels like, I am lost. It feels as if I've failed at life. I let Donna die which is hard when I see and read those survivor stories why couldn’t I’ve made that a story for her?

This Is Interesting #14

July 30, 2019 Mark

Seniors as a forgotten generation are becoming more isolated and turning to suicide. Grieving on the Internet has its own set of rules. When your spouse there are gains that are not all that wonderful. Five rules to support a grieving person.

Grief is Vivisection to Those Left Behind

July 15, 2019 Mark

Country music lyrics, CS Lewis A Grief Observed, and a cause in self-compassion. These elements have helped open my receptors to the pain of memories of what was and what is. I am now shaping my grief into my life force.

My Grief Through Their Eyes

July 12, 2019 Mark

I was the docent for Donna’s death. I have been writing a chronicle reflecting on my memories of Donna and this period of guiding her to death. I interviewed those who knew both of us to learn what they saw and felt. In a way to see a truth outside of my memories.

The Velocity of Grief The Demand for Support

May 12, 2019 Mark

Part of the excavation of my grief and self examination of my life with and without Donna has been first and foremost to learn. Integrate what I've learned into my consciousness. Second, I always thought that I could offer insight for others suffering loss and grief. I am at a place now with my grief and the Memoir that I feel I have a strong, important, and meaningful message to share.

This is Interesting #11

April 29, 2019 Mark

The simple act of writing a letter of condolences is the purest act of humanity we can share. Our loneliness in grief is real yet the simple act of listening is so important. “Grief is so uncomfortable especially when it is someone else’s” From a brilliant TED talk by @noraborealis